"The
best predictor of how a person will act in the future
is
how they've acted in the past."
T.
Laco
The
principle of Commitment says that "A commitment or
trust
can only be as good as the honesty it's based on."
We
learn the deepest levels about people in hardest times.
If
you only know a person to 25% or 50% of their depth,
that
is all the deeper that you should reliably trust them.
If
you only know a part of a person but trust them 100%,
that
gap is the degree of your risk of getting hurt by them.
The
gap between what you do know and you don't know
about
someone is the degree you expose yourself to pain.
If
you commit yourself more deeply than your knowledge
of
the person warrants, then you set yourself up for pain,
because
you can only know a person as deeply as you've
experienced
or observed them in difficult situations.
Where
are you placing yourself at greater risk of pain than
your
knowledge of the person says that you should?