"Even
courage needs encouragement in order to grow."
One way you can escalate pressure when someone is unfair is by going public and bringing
in an
audience to help counter the unfairness. Asking others how they view the situation and
what they
think is fair can help to shift the balance of forces when you think someone is being
unfair to you.
And if the other person resists the idea of you getting an audience, you should probably
beware.
When people know they're being unfair, they tend not to want an audience there. And so you
need
one even more.
UNFAIR (United Network For Action Instead of Resentment) is a private SAGE group of people
who try to help each other to stand up against unfair treatment from other persons or
organizations.
We helped one man be able to stop a former mate from making untrue accusations of abuse by
suggesting he propose they both take lie detector tests. When a firm refused to give a
refund for a
faulty product, we helped a woman get her money back quickly by saying she'd go to a
newspaper
reporter. We helped another person stop late night harassing phone calls by putting in an
answering
machine and just clicking the line and whispering quietly, "This is the one,
officer."
UNFAIR is counselor-monitored support and message area where people share experiences and
the learnings they get from them in order to help both themselves and others handle unfair
situations
and get help from other people's learnings whenever they have a conflict or difficult
issue to resolve.
If you would like to connect with people who have successfully overcome email or telephone
the
SAGE counselor and request a password. Include the word UNFAIR in the title of your
message
and describe the situation you are facing, and we'll pass it along to others to see if any
have the time
or inclination to meet with you in the UNFAIR support area.