"The Gods believe in `Matching Grants."
Carl Rogers
There is a principle of Reciprocity that teaches,
"Life believes in `Matching Grants,' and thus
reciprocates and responds in kind by giving us
whatever our actions show that we'll accept."
As we accept and run our lives by that principle,
we begin to see our lives are a life-long dialogue
with that force that tries to teach us by the things
that it causes to have happen to us in our lives,
and that how we act determines what we attract.
We play our part by how well we listen and react
in response to whatever it causes to happen to us.
Then it reacts back based on how we responded,
giving us whatever our actions show we'll accept,
while trying to teach us what it wants us to learn.
So the next lesson takes place on a higher or a
lower level of learning, depending on our reaction.
We can see this operating, and actively participate in
the process and use it to help us on a day-to-day basis
with our self-sabotaging impulses. To do this, make a
list of your self-sabotaging actions, thoughts or feelings.
Then grade yourself each day on how well you did in
the last 24 hours in each area.
For any area where you have an unacceptable grade for
the day, use the tool of Directed Meditation
to ask the part
of you that caused it, "What all are you trying to say to me
by causing that to happen?" And write down every thought
that comes to mind or floats up during that meditation.
Then after you've done that, ask yourself, "What will I do
in this area today to do better today than I did yesterday?"
And add that as a commitment to today's list of sabotaging
behaviors you're monitoring and things you want to work on
or do during the day. Then grade yourself on this behavior
as well when you review the last 24 hours during your daily
grading, meditating & rededicating to your
priorities tomorrow.